Girls Girls Girls

Recently there was a photo going around Facebook which consisted of two girls wearing thongs stood side by side. The photo was shared by a girl I went to school with who clearly had some very enlightening things to say;
"Are these girls for fucking real?... Have a bit more respect for yourself please ffs. Things like this make me angry no wonder some boys think they can just use girls as a fuck seeing pictures like these all over the internet. One picture like this posted everywhere online makes all the rest of us girls look bad, stop embarressing yourselves."
She's got it all wrong, and I'm about to tell you why. Firstly, the reason some boys think "they can just use girls as a fuck" is nothing to do with what the girls wear and the images they upload, but everything to do with the boy and his disrespectful outlook on women. Second of all, why the fuck do you care what another girl is doing and how does it effect your life at all? A post like this in which girls are publicly slandered and shamed is disgusting and totally unnecessary. The most confusing and ironic part of this post was the clear dissatisfaction with the objectification of women. Emphasis on her concern that all women will now have a bad reputation and suffer sexual objectification."No wonder some boys think they can just use girls as a fuck". Supposedly against the inequality and sexual objectification of women yet claims that those who upload such images has no self respect. Since when did self respect mean keeping your skin covered up? Sounds like someone is a little insecure. Now get this, if her initial statement wasn't enough, she and her friends proceed to comment things such as:
"if i was a dude id wait for something with a nicer booty."
"They've got proper shit arses too"
"They don't even sit there, they just sagg !! Looking like extra long legs" 
"my nan probably has a better arse"
"If you're gonna do it, at least make sure you've got a good arse"
"They have shit asses"
"they either need to find pants that atleast try and make that shit look alright or they need to do squats."
I could go on, there are 96 comments in total. Look at the first comment I quoted,  "if i was a dude i'd wait for something with a nicer booty" So you moan about how men have these sexual standards then you as a woman, GO AND ENFORCE THESE STANDARDS YOURSELF, WHAT?! Oh my. How do you expect to be  treated with respect by men if you don't even treat other women respectfully? Telling these girls that they have "shit arses" and that they need to do squats to maintain a standard of acceptability. This idea that they can only upload such an image if they have an ideal figure is ludicrous. How dare someone feel comfortable and confident with their body. Why are girls so easily threatened by the body confidence of other girls? 

Who gives a fuck? If you want to show a lot of skin, cool, if you don't, that's cool too. Self respect isn't skin deep. Self respect is nothing to do with the way you dress.LOVE EACH OTHER GOD DAMN IT. 

-Skye.

Blaming Society

What is society? Society is a community of people, man kind, the general public. YOU are apart of society. It seems we've lost the actual meaning. Society is not something you can point your finger at and blame for the way you feel as if it's something you aren't apart of.

Society is not a separate thing or person giving out grief. It's as if people are imagining a person walking around with a massive flashing banner above their head labeled "SOCIETY" going from door to door calling people fat and unworthy.

I'm sure at some point you have called yourself ugly and I'm also sure at some point you have called someone else ugly. We're all guilty of this and it's a coincidence isn't it? YOU ARE SOCIETY. If people would stop treating the word society as if it were a third person and actually reflect on their own behaviour and change, then society would change too, because YOU ARE SOCIETY, I AM SOCIETY, WE ARE ALL SOCIETY.

Change starts with us. Perhaps we ought to start taking responsibility.

-Skye.

Accepting Your Looks

                       

 Now this might sound ironic coming from a teenage girl. I don't know much about accepting yourself, because too be frank, i'm shit at it too.The minority of you who read this, i'm going to assume dislike a variety of things about yourself so heres something that remotely works for me. Get a pen, and a notepad. Write down every single thing you dislike about your body. Notice that I say body, physical appearance, not your personality or traits because you can change those. 

I like travelling, reading, etc, will my big nose stop me from doing those things? No, absolutely not. Someone, God , science, whatever gave me this hunk of crap and I've got to work with it. Change what you don't like and accept what you can't change.

Don't compare. We all have the same worth. There is nothing someone else has that you don't. You have all the organs they do. We are all just bags of bones and skin cells. For example, if I were to offer you a hundred pound note, would you take it? Of course. Now if I were to scrunch it up, then offer it to you. Would you still want it? Absolutely. If I were to stand on it, scrunch it, get it all wet and dirty. Would you still want it? Yes, yes you would, you would look past the dirt and scrunches because you want it for what it's worth, not what it looks like. They all are worth the same amount, so it doesn't matter. That's exactly the same with you and me, I might be a slightly scrunched 100 pound note, you might be a slightly dirty 100 pound note, we are still both a 100 pound note, it makes no difference.

you shouldn't have it any other way. 

            "Don't let your mind bully your body"

-Skye.